Mother of the Bride Duties for the Big Day


You’ve been to countless weddings, but now it’s your daughter’s big day. You might not know what your duties are, but that’s normal; you don’t marry off daughters every day. You are one of the key people in your her life, so of course you’ll be heavily involved. Just help your daughter make this one of the most treasured days of her life! Below you’ll find a list of the mother of the bride duties, but it is up to you to enhance or reduce them.

Mother of the Bride Duties for the Big Day


Planning and Organizational Companion

As the mother of the bride-to-be, help your daughter with the enormous task of planning her wedding, but never impose your decisions on her. Don't forget that this is your daughter's special day; let her do what she can on her own.

  • Help compose lists of different venues and vendors from your experiences. Ask for suggestions from your friends and relatives, but allow your daughter and the groom to make the final decisions.

  • Make a list of all the important people that need to be invited to the wedding. After all, you don't want to hear Aunt Martha’s complaints after being left out. Give the list to your daughter so that she can prepare in advance accordingly.

  • Make sure that all the invitations are sent out and keep an eye on the RSVPs. Help organize a seating plan for the guests and coordinate it with the groom’s family.


Budget Decisions

If you and your husband are paying for the wedding, then let your daughter know the exact budget. She’ll have to make decisions accordingly.If the bride and the groom are paying for the wedding themselves, then let them handle the monetary decisions.



This is one of your most obvious duties, but provide shopping assistance only if your daughter asks for your help. Suggest all that she might need and help her choose the perfect wedding dress that will flatter her body and be appropriate as well.

Don’t forget to include yourself when shopping for your daughter. Choose a dress for yourself, or ask your daughter if there is anything special that she wants you to wear.


Go-To Contact

Act as the point of contact for the ,florists, photographers, caterers, etc. Ensure that they do not disturb your daughter on every detail on the day of the wedding.


Bridal Shower

Help organize a memorable bridal shower for your daughter. If you throw more than one, then attend the one which is more suitable for you. Don’t be surprised if you aren’t invited to the showers thrown by showers thrown by girlfriends.


Ease the Cold Feet

An important duty is helping your daughter get through this emotional time by being there for her. Brides will sometimes become overstressed and sentimental over small issues. They could also start having doubts about the wedding, or they might feel scared or nervous.

Let your daughter know that she will be the most beautiful bride on Earth, and remind her how special she is. The bride-to-be may often feel the urge to cry; always be there to give her a shoulder to cry on.


Family Traditions

One of the mother of the bride duties is to tell the bride about any family traditions. Does your family have are there any special rituals? Conduct a little research beforehand to know about the traditions.


Communicating with the Groom’s Mom

Weddings are delicate events. People might find offense offended in the smallest of things. Communicate important things with the groom's mom so that everything is in sync.

Discuss the wedding outfits to avoid having them clash in photographs. Inform the mother of groom about your guests and your sitting arrangement.


Assistance on the Morning of the Wedding

On the day of the wedding, you must be the most calm-headed person there. Get ready early so that you can help dress your daughter and solve the pre-wedding mishaps (don't think that there won't be any). This will also give you a few private minutes with your daughter to let her know how happy you are.


Main Hostess

Arrive at the altar or the church a little early to ensure that everything is right. Welcome the guests as they arrive and introduce them to the groom’s parents when necessary. There are countless duties at the reception, so make sure that all the guests are seated, well tended, and make them feel welcomed. Don’t afraid to delegate a few duties to close relatives. And ensure that the presents are carefully placed.


Have Fun

Amidst all the hustle, don’t forget to enjoy the wedding. Dance with your husband and the relatives, take in your daughter’s smile, and make happy memories.


At the End

Wave goodbye to your daughter at the end of the ceremony. Then say goodbye to your intimate friends and relatives. But your duties are still not over. There might be outstanding payments to settle, and ensure that all the presents are safely transferred. There might be other things you need to deal with, too. When everything is taken care of, you can go home and finally hit the bed!