Wedding Responsibilities: Who Does What?

Bride and Groom:

• Set a budget.

• Decide a wedding date and theme.

• Meet your vendors and talk about your wedding schedules.

• Choose bridal party and groomsmen, as well as their attire.

• Pick the bridal gown and groom’s attire.

• Prepare gifts for parents, bridal party and groomsmen.

• Order stationery and send out the invitations (optional).

• Enjoy the wedding day and send thank you notes.

Mother of the Bride:

• Help plan the wedding.

• Help prepare the guest list.

• Order stationery and send out the invitations (optional).

• Decide on her own outfit. Discussion with the groom’s mother is necessary, in this way they can maybe match in colors on the day.

• Stand at the head of the receiving line.

Father of the Bride:

• Walk his daughter down the aisle.

• Help with the greetings during the day.

• Dance with the bride on wedding day.

• Be the last person to leave at the end of the wedding reception.

The Mother and Father of the Groom:

• Keep in contact with the bride’s mother and father during the whole process, and offer help when necessary.

• Organise their son’s engagement party.

• Host the wedding rehearsal dinner. The father needs to propose the first toast at dinner.

• Greet guests in the receiving line.

Maid/Matron of Honor:

The MOH's wedding responsibilities are far more than a bridesmaid.  

• Plan and host the bridal shower.

• Organise the bachelorette party and help with any ad-hoc tasks that need to be done.

• Communicate with the bridesmaids and ensure all the finer details are taking care of, such as fittings and rehearsal schedule.

• Keep track of all the gifts received.

• Act as a witness for the bride on the marriage license.

• Hold the brides bouquet at the altar.

• Dance with the best man.

• Always be there for the bride. If the bride needs any assistance before she goes on her honeymoon, she will be by her side, ready to help.

Bridesmaids:

• Help plan (with the MOH) the bachelorette party.

• Attend all pre-wedding activities.

• Walk down the aisle behind or ahead the bride, depending on the layout of the wedding.

Junior Bridesmaid:

If a girl who is under the age of 14 years old, is to be a bridesmaid, she’s generally called junior bridesmaid.  

• Wear something a little different but the same colour theme as the bridesmaid, but more age appropriate.

• Walk alongside the bridesmaid during the wedding ceremony.

• Attend the wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.

• Stand in the receiving line (optional)

• Attend the bridal shower (optional)

Flower Girl:

 A flower girl is usually aged between three and eight years old.

• Scatter rose or flower petals down the aisle, ahead of the bride.

• Attend the wedding rehearsal with her parents.

Best Man:

The best man’s wedding responsibilities are similar to the MOH.  

• Organise the bachelor party

• Help with the groomsmen’s fittings and outfits.

• Have an active role at the wedding rehearsal dinner and ensure that the groom gets to the wedding on time.

• Hold the rings and hand them over to the pastor at the ceremony.

• Act as a witness on the marriage license

• Dance with the MOH

• Toast at the reception.

Ushers and Groomsmen:

• Help the best man plan the bachelor party.

• Attend all pre-wedding activities.

• Arrive at the wedding ceremony before anyone else so they can meet and greet the wedding guests and lead them to their seats.

Ring Bearer:

• Carry “representative” rings on a pillow down the aisle to either the MOH or the best man.

• Attend the wedding rehearsal with his parents.

Bride and Bride’s Family:

• Engagement party (optional)

• Wedding venue and ceremony

• Wedding stationery, including invitations and programs

• Decorations and entertainment on the day

• Wedding reception including rental products, wedding cake, food and drinks

• Any flowers that are needed

• Photography and videography on the day

• DJ or band

• Bridesmaid bouquets

• Bride’s wedding dress and the accessories

• Wedding gift

Groom and Groom’s Family:

• Engagement party (optional)

• Marriage License and officiant’s fee

• Rings

• Wedding rehearsal dinner

• Groom’s Attire

• Bride’s bouquet

• Boutonniere

• The honeymoon

• Wedding gift

Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid:

• Bridal shower

• Bachelorette party

• Dress and accessories

• Transportation

• Wedding gift

Best Man and Groomsmen:

• Bachelor party

• Attire

• Transportation

• Wedding git

Others:

• Attire

• Transportation

• Wedding gift